Life is like a big swing, dangling between the depths of happiness and sadness. As soon as we descend down the slope of sadness, we accelerate over the ever-feel-good acclivity f happiness. At times of distress, when we are down we slip over an abyss of emotional trauma and frustrations. One who can rise above the occasion, is the architect of many wins over sorrows.
To come above tougher times you have to pep yourself up, when you are feeling low, lost and confused. This can be done effectively by self-talk. Self-talk is a way of talking to oneself. It can be effectively used for soul searching. When talking to ourselves, we hardly lie as our conscience controls our speech. Self talk is efficient because when we are vocal about our thoughts, it makes a larger impact on our mind. Our brain then receives the same message from the mind as well as the ears. This repetition pep talks and thoughts fine tunes the performance of brain.
Self-talk is a software, which when properly loaded onto our mind directs ourselves for better results and a healthy mind. Actually many times in our life, we find others advising us to do better in studies, sports, life etc. We usually get bugged by these people and blank our ears out of their constructive suggestions. It is because it doesn't come from within us. And when something comes from within you, you always try your best to do justice to it. Self-talk can thus ameliorate our status.
Each one of us has some good points and some bad ones. Though we hardly admit in pubic, we know in our mind that we could do better in some areas of our personal landscape. This get better attitude can be converted into a practical reality using self-talk.
If you are an introvert and you want to be the gregarious person like you friend next door, all you need to do is talk to yourself. Tell yourself with all the sincerity and emotions that “I can be like him. I am a natural born speaker. I do like people and speaking comes naturally to me. I just have to be ready to listen and speak”. Suppose you love a person and want to tell him or her, then just say to yourselves “I love her with all my heart. She is the only one and I know it. If I don't let her know, it would be grave injustice on my part. Every person loves to be loved. Even she will”. These are just some examples I have explained. It's up to you to program your own mantra.
If you are highly optimistic to do better, there is no better motivator than self-talk. So guys start talking.
參考譯文：
《和自己交談的力量》
生活像一具大秋千，總在開(kāi)心和憂愁間搖擺。每當(dāng)我們陷入憂愁的低谷時(shí)，我們以開(kāi)始沖向開(kāi)心的谷頂。在深陷悲痛，跌入感情創(chuàng)傷和絕望的深淵的時(shí)候，能夠從中走出來(lái)的，就是戰(zhàn)勝悲傷的贏家。
當(dāng)你感覺(jué)情緒低落，失落和迷惘時(shí)，要從艱難中走出，你要不斷激勵(lì)自己。這可以用自我交談的方式有效地實(shí)現(xiàn)。自我交談其實(shí)就是與自己對(duì)話，它能夠有效地運(yùn)用于靈魂的探索。當(dāng)我們和自己談話時(shí)，我們很難說(shuō)謊，因?yàn)槲覀兊牧夹闹渲徽?。自我交談之所以有效，是因?yàn)槲覀兛梢月?tīng)到自己的想法，這對(duì)我們思想有很強(qiáng)的影響力。我們的大腦像耳朵一樣從思想中接受信息。重復(fù)激勵(lì)的談話和想法會(huì)調(diào)節(jié)大腦的反應(yīng)。
自我交談是一個(gè)軟件，當(dāng)它被恰如其分地轉(zhuǎn)載我們的思想時(shí)，它就能指引我們得到好的結(jié)果和一個(gè)健康的心態(tài)。實(shí)際上我閃在生活中常發(fā)覺(jué)別人勸告自己要在學(xué)習(xí)、體育和生活等方面做得更好。我們經(jīng)常對(duì)別人在我們耳邊的嘮叨感到厭煩，對(duì)富有建設(shè)性的建議也聽(tīng)不進(jìn)去。這是因?yàn)檫@不是來(lái)自我們內(nèi)心的聲音。當(dāng)這個(gè)聲音來(lái)自你的內(nèi)心時(shí)，你就會(huì)全力以赴去實(shí)現(xiàn)它。因此，與自己對(duì)話可以改善我們的現(xiàn)狀。每個(gè)人都有優(yōu)點(diǎn)和弱點(diǎn)。雖然我們不會(huì)在公共場(chǎng)合承認(rèn)，我們清楚自己在個(gè)人生活的某些方面可以做得更好。通過(guò)自我交談我們可以做得更好，這個(gè)觀點(diǎn)就能在生活中變?yōu)楝F(xiàn)實(shí)。
如果你是內(nèi)向型的，你想如你隔壁的朋友那樣出眾，你所要做的就是和自己交談。充滿誠(chéng)摯和感情地告訴自己“我可以像他一樣，我是個(gè)天生的演說(shuō)家。我確實(shí)喜歡人們，和人交談很自然。我只要準(zhǔn)備好傾聽(tīng)和談話就是了。” 假設(shè)你愛(ài)一個(gè)人，你想告訴他或她，那么就對(duì)自己說(shuō)“我全心全意地愛(ài)她，我知道她是我的唯一。如果我不告訴她，這對(duì)自己很不公平。每個(gè)人都喜歡他人所愛(ài)的。她也一樣。” 這些只是我用來(lái)解釋的例子，怎么說(shuō)取決于你自己。
如果你非常樂(lè)觀地想做得更好，自我交談就是最好的辦法。所以，開(kāi)始交談吧！
